Tuesday, 29 August 2017

Losing Friends and Dealing With A Broken Friendship

Friendships. They are one of the best things we all have and experience in life. Filling us with happy memories and moments that last us a lifetime. But they can also have their downfalls and not every friendship is going to be there forever some do break apart for whatever reason that may be and we all go through drama with friends and I want to be able to show you that but also try to help with dealing with it. I already know this post is set to be long and full of rambles so I'm sorry about that  maybe grab a beverage and curl up.

The other week Em Sheldon ( EmTalks ) wrote a post on how to deal with a friend heartbreak and I sat there eyes glued to my screen, as everything she had wrote was just so raw and honest that you can't help but admire her for speaking up and saying how we all feel. If there is one think I love about Em as a person it is her attitude and courage when it comes to empowering women. It is so refreshing to see in a Blogger. We can all sit and talk about what products we have been loving and these posts I do enjoy don't get me wrong but I can't help but love seeing people use their following to make a difference to those around them. After speaking to her at a Space NK event in Leeds last week I really saw how she does reflect her blog content in person.



When I first took inspiration from Em to write this post, I agreed completely that this could be something way too personal to even put live but I also feel that even if I am able to only share a small amount of everything with you, hopefully that can make a difference. It doesn't matter what age you are, we all go through ups and downs with friendships everyday, throughout our entire lives and even now at 19 I still struggle with broken friendships. But I really do want to say and emphasise by losing these friendships and growing up and as a person, this heartbreak you go through of losing a friend you expected to have in your life for years, it really does make you strong at the end of it. I think it is so important to find as many positives as you can from the situation and not only that, in the past whether its been heartbreak with a boy, a friend, or a best friend, I have always without fail learnt something new and something more about myself. If someone has gone out of their way to treat you badly, they have actually done you a favour. Every time it has happened to me I have come to realise the future is what is key, you don't need that person in your life and as a friend. Friends are so important to have in your life but also when one does come to an end it shows you a little reminder that you're independent and being on your own is possible.  Not only this but we learn what qualities we do want in a friend and what we never want in a friend again.

Friendships end for a whole array of reasons, sometimes for reasons which we don't even know. They won't always be bad but they also won't always be good. Reaching the more personal aspect to this post I was a little wary to discuss the reasons some of the friendships in my life came to an end recently but I also know if I do they can highlight and be used as examples in this post further down so here goes nothing. After my first year at college and going through a really difficult time with a relationship, my health and also family issues, my parents made the decision for us to move not to just a new house, but to a completely different area, somewhere I had never been before and knew nobody. This meant I had to change colleges and go into an environment where everybody already knew each other and had their groups but everybody was REALLY friendly and this one group of three girls introduced me to their  "clique". From first impressions they seemed so lovely, I was actually taken a back a bit by it and I always do only judge people by how they are which is quite na├»ve of me I suppose but if somebody is nice to me I never stop to think they could actually be a horrible person. So we all got to know each other and our lives and we became super close. I see myself to be quite a generous person without wanting that to sound arrogant whether that's when it comes to friendship, love, time or general life, Spending time with these girls, if we'd planned to have girly night in I'd buy us all matching pjs and bring snacks, face masks etc. I never once did this to try force these girl into being friends with me I simply did it because I wanted to. I like to treat my friends and do nice things for them as I do with everybody I care about and love. I love to make people happy and it simply is just the way I am. It wouldn't have mattered how long I'd known these friends I'd have been the same and did to start to think they were super lovely. Then it came to Christmas and my boyfriend at the time  came to me saying he'd agreed with his auntie to use her house for a Christmas party. I have no idea why he did this because I've never been a party kind of person and I don't drink either but he insisted he was just trying to do something nice for me to spend time with my friends so I reluctantly agreed.  So we were at the party and suddenly all these people turned up out of nowhere for a house, that wasn't too big, there was certainly too many people. I knew for a fact I hadn't invited any of these people and I didn't know who they were either. I went over and asked the girls and they said they thought it'd be okay to invite a FEW (a few being about 50 people) people round to make it more of a party and for me to lighten up. Now at this point that was my warning sign I should've known to get out of this friendship right there and then. During the party I had a panic attack, I had felt it coming on and said to the one of the girls I need to go find an empty room quickly but even though she was perfectly aware of what was happening rather than asking if I needed anything or if I was okay she simply said okay whatever we're off to get food. Now I know not everybody understands anxiety and panic attacks but this girl didn't even stop for one second to show any concern. There was numerous other things happen over the following weeks that led to this friendship coming to a close but in conclusion these girls were not someone I wanted to be friends with.





Growing apart will happen. It's natural that some friendships you will grow out and they aren't their to last. That s just the dynamics of human relationships. My mum has always said to me - Some friends are for a reason, some for a season and some for a lifetime.  She really couldn't be more right about this. We are all evolving and growing as individuals.

Tip 1 When it comes to dealing with the end of a friendship never badmouth the other person/people involved. I know this can be so easily done and I have myself been guilty of this but by doing this we are nurturing negativity which will eat at us and not the other/s involved and nobody is worth that.

Tip 2 A friendship is a form of loss so it will hurt and you have to allow yourself to feel whatever emotions it brings you. Whether its sadness, anger or you need to cry, you have to allow that. If you considered this person to be someone you were really close too, its okay to mourn. Talking about it is a necessity but do so around the appropriate people rather than someone who was mutually friends with them.

Tip 3 Give yourself a deadline. For me personally this is a week but you need to listen to yourself and how much you are going to need. Take how ever much time you do require but have an end date in mind for this emotional roller coaster until enough is enough and you can take the steps to move on.

Tip 4 Think about what you could have done better and for me this is definitely the way I react. During the healing process for me I knew that if I was ever in a bad situation like that again to walk away as soon as my emotions began to rise and try resolve things with the person later rather than try to reason with someone who isn't in the mindset to do so at all. Its a real maturity that will make you feel good about yourself and help you heal.

Tip 5 Establish a new friend "policy". Revisit the qualities you appreciate the most in a friend. You deserve people who will support and empower you.  Evaluate what is important to you and make sure that the current people in your life have those and as you met new people in the future try to recognise if they have those feelings form the start so you don't waste time on them if not.

Tip 6 Get busy and start doing things that are beneficial for your mind and body. Try new things like a hobby you have been putting off because when you feel like you are improving your mind and your body, your self esteem will really grow and you will heal quicker.

Sorry for rambling but I hope this helped you all in some way.
Love Sx

Sunday, 15 May 2016

Instagram Diary #3 I think my fave so far


Hey everybody! So today I thought I would do just a simple post since it's such a lovely day and I'm sure you don't want your time taken up reading a long rambly post from me which requires you sitting down with a beverage..haha. This is also one you guys always love and that is an Instagram diary. If you are new to my blog first off Hi, Hello, How you doing? I hope you're doing good. An Instagram diary is basically where I take a selection of photos from my Instagram the past month and share them with you, This month has to be one of my favourites simply because it involves my Dublin adventures, good deeds and you start to see my Instagram transform into Summer which is the best time of the year except Autumn. Which Season is your favourite? Anyway without further a do here we go..

 

♥ Throwing it back to my photogrpahy days  Lovely meal in the sunshine with Ebony  Me smiling how rare ♥ First of many summer posts  One of my favourite cheer competitions I've been part of we came first!  Summer skies are upon us  No makeup days are okay  ♥ Creepy faceswap selfie with the best friend I could ever ever ask for  Remember this! Nothing wrong in a bit of body confidence ♥ How Inspiring  I paid for someone else's McDonalds this day so was in a super good mood kindness is free so throw it around like confetti  Its hard to look attractive looking out the gravity bar with Guinness which FYI is totally gross ♥ THIS PLACE WAS SO BEAUTIFUL AND ALSO ONE OF THE BEST NIGHTS IN DUBLIN   Jeff and Agshins (pronounced action) the pizza chefs, we were challenged on a scavenger hunt and one task was to go take a selfie with a random citizen and find out their career obviously we went for someone who makes pizza and this was actually so fun to do!  I'm 18!! Best weekend ever thank you so much to my sister for surprising me and turning up at the door

What have been your favourite moments this month? Let me know :) See you next time lovelies and I hope you have a fabulous Sunday

Friday, 13 May 2016

4 Drugstore Foundations Reviews

Hello lovelies! So recently I have been on the hunt for a new drugstore foundation. I had become so used to using the more higher end brands that I just couldn't seem to be able to find myself loving one as much as I did the NARS sheerglow. Ever since trying my first high end foundation I became so set in the mindset that you get what you pay for so I never ventured into shops like Boots or Superdrug when I wanted a new foundation. Terrible of me I know..haha. However at £32 a bottle I also wanted to be able to have that drugstore alternative there which was just as good and I could wear on a more everyday basis at college and just see if what I thought about you getting what you pay for is a load of ol trollop. I had heard so many different recommendations from bloggers and YouTubers ranging from the Rimmel 25hr lasting finish to the Bourjois healthy mix so what did I do?! I went out and picked up a fair few! and I thought I would share my thoughts on them with you all and my overall experience.

Obviously before I start everybody's skin is different so if I don't like a foundation that you absolutely love please do not be offended this is just how I personally felt like they worked on my skin and everybody is not the same at the end of the day. I have I guess combination to normal skin but I tried to pick just a range of random drugstore foundations so some were never going to suit my skin type but for some of you lot they might be perfect. I just don't want you to go out and buy one that I've said is really good and then be disappointed so please bear in my mind that not all of these will for work for you either :)

The first thing I found out when going to buy a high street foundation is finding your shade is far from easy especially when you are as pale as I am. Casper the ghost over here haha. Whenever you go to a high end stand they match you and you know you'll be getting the right shade but not when it comes to high-street oh no! Even though they do have testers half of them were missing and you're still on you're own having to figure out which shades going to work for you and if i'm honest I left feeling that every foundation I had bought was not going to be the right shade and here in the UK returning your makeup isn't something we can do danggit! Obviously, testing on your face is the only way you're going to know if its going to match because the back of your hand is far from the same colour but with terrible lighting, few shades to go on and barely a mirror to call for or anything to wipe off that foundation which has now left a grimey orange streak on your jawline (note to self remember wipes or tissues next time) I can't say I enjoyed my venture into buying a highstreet foundation.




1) Bourjois Healthy Mix
RRP: £9.99
I would personally rate this one 1.5/5 
The first one I picked up was the Bourjois healthy mix foundation in the shade "Light Vanilla". Now if I am going to perfectly honest I absolutely hate this foundation. The first time I used it, the foundation stuck to all my dry patches (I don't even have that many eesh) it lasted barely anytime at all which is a big thing for me as I don't have a lot of time during the day to be able to top up at college and it also just went really patchy and gross. I have heard a lot of people say they love this too but it just personally didn't work for me and I was so diappointed because I was expecting a lot more from it. It has a very light- medium coverage and i'd say a natural matte finish so if that is something you personally like or you have quite good skin then maybe give it a try but for me it was far from worth the £10 it cost me. If you do want to try this it's available in Boots and Superdrug.

2) Rimmel Wake Me Up
RRP: £8.99
I would personally rate this one 4/5 

Next I picked up the Rimmel wake me up in the shade  Ivory. OMG this foundation is so good not amazing but still so good. I love the bright packaging it comes in and the fact the bottle is glass making it feel a bit more pricey if you know what mean and it just looks really lovely. Now I know its in the name but it really does make you look more awake and I feel its one of very limited foundations which lives up to the claims on the bottle. it says it gives you a radiant glow and look less tired which is so true it does! If you look carefully it has a very light sort of shimmer in it but its not excessive at all, you can hardly notice it in the bottle or even on your face but it definitely still helps to give that overall dewy look. I found this foundation to have a medium coverage which you can build on if you want and it just blends in really easily. A little added random bonus is it smells really nice and not like some foundations which smell like well paint .. haha. It lasted really long and throughout the day however I wouldn't recommend it to people with oily skin because it is very dewy and where I had it on and my skin was oily it did slip away slightly. 

3) Maybelline Dream Satin Liquid Foundation
RRP: £7.99
I would personally rate this one 3.5/5 

When it comes to buying foundations I always to tend to go for more dewy foundations along the lines of anti-fatigue and satiny flawless ones so trying this was a no brainier for me! Without a dewy foundation I just feel my skin looks very dull. So I like ones-which are going to make it look a lot more healthy and brighter. This was the cheapest one I bought but also one of my favourites. It lasted well throughout the day and blended really easily and smoothly into my skin although when I pumped some onto my hand it seemed very thick and moussey almost. It was just one of them foundations which felt really nice to apply and it also made my skin look really flawless and I didn't have any visible pores. It just works. I got this in the shade ivory and its a very heavy high coverage foundation. I do think however this shade wasn't great for me as it did leave a slight orange tinge. 

4) L'Oreal Paris Infallible 24hr
RRP: £9.99
I would personally rate this one 3.5-4/5 

Now I loved this first off because it works so well for pale skin aka mine!  I got this in the lightest shade 015 Porcelain which means it has pink undertones for me personally this is perfect but for others maybe not. The foundation itself is quite difficult to blend its very thick and it feels like you are dragging it across your face however after a few attempts I found applying it with a blending sponge that's been spritzed with water a lot better of an option than using a brush (which left icky brush marks eugh) and after that it was very easy to blend. It is very high coverage but I wouldn't say it would last the 24hrs not that I have tested that theory nor do I need it too haha.  When I first put it on I was a bit like oh this has a matte finish which i'm not a fan of but after it had set a bit it actually when really quite dewy and so many people have complimented me and asked what foundation i'm using when I wear it which is a good sign! So yes I must say i do quite like this.

I'd say the two I would definitely repurchase are the Rimmel Wake Me up and the L'Oreal Paris Infallible 24hr. I'm so happy I have found these foundations and happy I have them in my collection now. They are good!

So that is 4 of the drugstore foundations that I have tried and tested as they say. I do have more which are currently undergoing the test from me so I will be sure to review them for you in the near future and this can be like a two part post which I will do unless you really did not like this but I'm sure if you didn't you wouldn't have read this far :p 

See you next time and hope you have a wonderful day whatever you are doing :)





Wednesday, 2 March 2016

LEE STAFFORD CHOPSTICK REVIEW

Ever since I was little I have been completely obsessed with having curly hair and even at some points considered getting a perm (I later decided this would be an EXTREMELY bad idea and I'd be a waking,talking poodle if I did such a thing..lol) .

Anyhow over the past few months I have seen so many girls post on instagram images of themselves where their hair looked friggin incredible!! and all because they had used the Lee Stafford Chopstick Styler.  It gives you tight bouncy corkscrew curls which I know some of you may not be brave enough to give a go ( I was pretty scared to try it too eek) but when I looked into buying one- which proved a lot harder than I anticipated because they were sold out literally everywhere (that shows something though right?!) I eventually found it on Superdrug for £19.99- Bargain right?! I decided at that price and with warranty included there was no harm in me giving it a whirl so I purchased it last week.




The main reason though behind this purchase is I was genuinely intrigued, especially to see how well it actually worked! Granted my hair isn't all that naturally pin straight but it is also far from the crazy corkscrew curls it creates but my hair is really quite thin and styling it is never easy so I wanted to see if this in anyway could help with that.
  
And..
This is my results! :)



My hair looked and felt amazing after using this! Honestly my hair felt like a big ol fluffy cloud. I must admit at first I wasn't happy with it but then I realised if you give your a big ol ruffle and rake your fingers through your hair it breaks the curls up and its fabby :)

I got so many compliments too and people asking how I got my hair to be like this as normally my hair is always straight or tied up so it was a change haha! I felt like I had gone back to the 80's and yes still looked a tad like a poodle but still i love it! It is really long lasting too I went to sleep and bare in mind I am a fidgety sleeper I woke up and it was just as good!

♥ Tips and Know Hows
♥ It takes a long time to do! You have to take really small sections of your hair for it to be able to work so make sure you have at least half hour set aside to do it
♥ Linking to this if you have long hair ( lucky for me i no longer do whoop!) I can imagine it will take a long while to wrap around
♥ The styler heats up really quick and I'm guessing to about 200 degrees so be careful as it gets v hot and I have burnt myself a couple times ( Maybe even wear a thermal glove)
♥ DO NOT ATTEMPT TO CURL YOUR FRINGE ( enough said ;)..)
♥ Always use a heat protector as it does get hot like I said!
♥ And remember to swish that hair

Speak to you in my next post lovelies!

Monday, 15 February 2016

Updated Everyday Makeup Look






Face:
♥ Clarins Extra Firming Day Lotion
♥ Revlon ColorStay Foundation
♥ Collection Concealer (Blemishes)
♥ Rimmel Wake Me Up Concealer (under eyes)
♥ Miss Sporty So Clear Powder
♥ Make-up Revolution Contour Kit in Light (used both for contour and highlight)
♥ Lancome Blush in Shimmer Pink Pool

Eyes:
♥ Benefit Stay Don't Stray
♥ Warm Brown Shade from W7 
♥  Darker Brown Shade from Make-up Revolution Essential Mattes Palette
♥ Shimmer Gold Shade Make-up Revolution Iconic 1 Palette
♥ Naked Basics Venus (Highlight)
♥ Benefit They're Real
♥ Maybelliene Lash Sensational

Lips:
♥Too Faced Lip Insurance
♥ MAC Merh